1 Peter 3:7 — “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
I have often heard it said that “God always hears our prayers.” We hear Scriptures such as, 1 John 5:15 that says, “And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.” We may be tempted to immediately draw that conclusion. But as Jesus challenged Satan during his wilderness temptation with the simple retort, “It is also written” (Mat. 4:7), perhaps we should examine more of what Scripture has to say on the matter.
Our Scripture today from 1 Peter 3 would seem to indicate that our neglect of our spouses, lack of respect or lack of being considerate may indeed hinder our prayers. 1 Peter 3:12 says, “For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” God apparently does listen attentively to those who are righteous (in right standing with God), but it seems as if He is set against, or deaf, to those who do evil. This echoes David who writes in the Psalms, “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened;” (Ps. 66:18). David was a “man after God’s own heart,” if there was anyone who was righteous before God it was him…and yet, he laments that his own predilection to sin could keep his prayers from reaching God’s ears.
Now I’m not trying to scare you or bring condemnation or fear…all of our right actions are as filthy rags before Jesus (Isaiah 64:6; Rom. 3:10). We should be thankful to know that our righteousness (right standing) before God is not our doing. Faith in Jesus Christ alone is what gives us a right standing before God. And it keeps us right before Him (when we confess our sins — 1 John 1:9). But if you you feel like God is distant or not “hearing” you, you may want to take spiritual inventory. Is there any sin in your heart? Are you treating your spouse with respect? If so, the remedy is simple…confess your sins to God and you will find that, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
Praise the Lord, my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the Lord, my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
The Lord works righteousness
and justice for all the oppressed.
He made known his ways to Moses,
his deeds to the people of Israel:
The Lord is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
As a father has compassion on his children,
so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;
for he knows how we are formed,
he remembers that we are dust.
The life of mortals is like grass,
they flourish like a flower of the field;
the wind blows over it and it is gone,
and its place remembers it no more.
But from everlasting to everlasting
the Lord’s love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children’s children—
with those who keep his covenant
and remember to obey his precepts.
The Lord has established his throne in heaven,
and his kingdom rules over all.
Praise the Lord, you his angels,
you mighty ones who do his bidding,
who obey his word.
Praise the Lord, all his heavenly hosts,
you his servants who do his will.
Praise the Lord, all his works
everywhere in his dominion.
Praise the Lord, my soul. Amen. (Psalm 103)